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Christmas CookiesAs you have probably discovered by now, I absolutely love Christmas! One of my favorite parts is participating in traditions with my family — and cultivating them.

One of my favorite traditions as a kid was getting to go to my grandparents’ house for dinner and gifts every Christmas Eve. Of course, that stopped when I was in junior high — all because of a silly little rift in the family. (Yes, we counselors have those too. . . probably more than we’d like to admit.)

Traditions are things that provide a sense of bonding and belonging. They can take on a life all their own, if you’re not careful. . . so I advise people to practice their traditions with a high degree of flexibility, as long as they do not compromise their values.

Last night, we participated in one of our traditions. We went out to dinner and then drove around various neighborhoods in the city enjoying the festive light displays. Some people really get into it. It gets downright competitive in some areas. I hope that it all stays friendly!

Our kids enjoyed seeing many Santas, reindeer, and nativity scenes. My almost two-year-old daughter was so cute. . . seemed every other breath she was saying, “Hey, baby Jesus”. . . “Hey, Santa.”

We had planned to observe another of our holiday traditions tonight — baking and decorating the Christmas cookies. However, we forgot that the dough has to chill for several hours before it is suitable for cutting. . . not to mention the fact that the ingredients had not all yet been bought. Oops! So the cookies are scheduled to bake tomorrow afternoon. (That’s what I mean by flexibility.)

Tomorrow evening will be a great time of celebration as well. No matter where we have lived, we have made Christmas Eve worship a centerpiece of our experience. I can think of no better way to keep Christ front and center. There’s something special about gathering with fellow believers to sing familiar carols, light candles, and share in the reading of the Christmas story.

Following the service, we plan to enjoy a light dinner of minestrone soup (it cleans up so quickly!) and opening of family gifts. Then we’ll sing some carols together around the piano and get the kiddos in their Christmas pajamas.

The kids will, of course, set out some special-made cookies for the jolly elf. This year, I understand he’ll be getting chocolate milk. . . apparently by request! We’ll read The Christmas Star and The Night Before Christmas together as a family before tucking the little ones in for the night. (Santa won’t come if you’re awake, you know.)

On Christmas Day, we traditionally have a noontime meal fit for a king, followed by a homemade birthday cake for Jesus. This year it’s red velvet.

Every family is different. Some are rich in tradition. . . some not so much. I encourage you to think through what you want your traditions to accomplish. Keep those that work, and always look for new ones that make your family rich in fun, love, and reverence.

However you celebrate Christmas this year, may the Christ child truly be the One you seek to honor.

From our house to yours. . . peace, love, Jesus, and a very Merry Christmas.

Movie Musing: Waitress

December 22, 2007 — Leave a comment

Keri Russell in WaitressI must admit that I don’t watch a lot of movies. However, when I do, I frequently find myself captivated by how contemplative I can be afterwards. Tonight was one of those times.

My wife and I rented the movie Waitress (Fox Searchlight, 2007) and enjoyed a quiet evening at home. While it’s not a film I would heartily recommend as a must-see (PG-13 primarily for sex and language), it is one that made me think a good bit. . . not bad for a movie that I’d pretty easily describe as cheesy. The real critics use the word folksy. . . guess that’s more appealing.

Despite its lack of cinematography, the flick did connect pretty well to real life. I see some of its themes every day through my work and ministry.

The story line reminds me how many people out there are truly miserable in their marriages. The main character, a small-town girl played by Keri Russell, is trapped in a loveless marriage with a controlling, abusive, and explosive man who seems to think only of himself.

I’m also reminded how many people in this world are truly lonely. For the three waitresses in the film, their workplace — a simple pie diner — provides about the only opportunity for meaningful relationship. One of them eventually settles for a man she is very unattracted to — because no one else has shown any interest in her. I’ve seen many people in difficult relationships for exactly that reason.

I was also struck by how there was a complete absence of anything spiritual in the film. The characters in it simple do their best to get by from day to day, with little regard for the future. Russell’s character, pregnant with an unwanted baby, was driven to seek a better life for the unborn little one. . . so I guess she wasn’t totally disconnected from her sense of future. She just felt stuck in her present. I think there are a lot of people in the world like that as well.

There are so many ways in which this simple film grabbed my attention and made me take note.

As I think of my own life tonight, I feel pretty grateful to have true love, real relationships, and a definite purpose for my life. I hope you do too.