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Weary in waiting

February 28, 2008 — Leave a comment

eagle-flying.jpgI don’t know about you, but I’m not a very good waiter. I’m not talking about a restaurant server. . . I’m talking about one who practices patience. Sure, my level of patience seems to be improving somewhat as I mature, but I seriously don’t enjoy waiting.

Our society seems to condition us to be impatient. With instant coffee, instant soup — even peanut butter and jelly already together in the same jar. And the grocery store is not the only place where our need for instant gratification shows up.

Think about it. As recently as five or six years ago, e-mail was the way to go. I remember being so excited to find out someone else in my family or circle of friends had an e-mail address because our frequency of communication would somehow increase dramatically. For some, that was true — for a while. However, now even the speed of e-mail is outdated, replaced by instant messaging, SMS voice-mail, and other means of communication.

In many ways, our society’s obsession with instant results has spoiled us beyond compare. I now get most of my news from online sources because I don’t want to take the time to watch a news program on television. I also sometimes feel frustrated if I have to actually wait in a “waiting room” at the doctor’s office — as if the location is somehow misnamed.

How is your patience — or lack thereof — influencing others? I got one answer to that question just the other night — from my two-year-old daughter. We went on an outing to get ice cream through the Braum’s drive-through. There were four cars ahead of us, and the line simply did not seem to be moving at all. After nearly ten minutes of sitting still (and with my own patience beginning to wear thin), my daughter exclaimed, “C’mon, cars, c’mon.” I couldn’t help but think that I bear some responsibility for teaching her impatience — not exactly the kind of influence I want to have on my children.

While that account may be a bit funny, for many people, waiting is a terribly exhausting and frustrating thing indeed. Consider these examples:

  • A young man waiting for a better job situation
  • A middle-aged woman waiting on her husband to stop beating her
  • A little girl waiting to see if her daddy really will show up for his scheduled visit
  • A little boy waiting to find out if his cancer is back
  • A woman waiting to find out if she is pregnant, after a third round of in vitro
  • A military mom waiting to hear if her son was among those killed in Iraq
  • An old man waiting on God to help his life make sense

Yes, there are some things that just do not lend themselves to our need for instant gratification. Most people do not find waiting fun. It is trying . . . unnerving . . . sometimes disturbing.

However, waiting can provide an opportunity to grow your faith. I’ve found that is often the case in my own life. It is a good thing to be still and know that He is God. As much as I think I’d like answers now, I realize that waiting is one way that God reminds me of my place in this world. His ways are not my ways.

One of my favorite Bible passages gives me encouragement and hope when I become weary in waiting. Isaiah 40:28-31 says this:

“Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” (NIV)

We’re all waiting for something. Whatever you’re waiting for, wait in Him. That one thing will make a world of difference.

Justice and jerks

February 22, 2008 — Leave a comment

God Sprinkles JerksI just love this cartoon. Do you know that most of the issues that bring people to my office are rooted in problems with other people? It’s a fact. And in our increasingly self-absorbed society, it is easy to see that nice people frequently get clobbered by those who are concerned only for themselves.

My family and I just enjoyed a four-day visit from my mother. It’s always a treat for her to have the opportunity to be absorbed into our lives for a while, play with the grandkids, and have a change of scenery and pace.

As we were talking a few days ago, my mom reminded me of something that seems more true today than ever before. One of the things my mom has always said about her two sons is that they are passionate about truth and justice, even though we chose decidedly different paths in order to pursue those virtues. I am a minister and counselor; my brother is a law enforcement officer. We’re very different in many ways yet more alike than we’ll probably ever truly know.

Among those similarities is that innate calling to be fairminded, temperate, and honest. I may appear reserved, at first glance, but those who know me well can attest to a self-assured demeanor that rarely fails to clearly articulate my thoughts and feelings. Perhaps I was picked on by one too many people in junior high school. Whatever the case may be, at some point along life’s way, I decided that my voice was just as important as that of the next person. I simply cannot stand to see people mistreated by others.

I have learned in life that nice guys do not always have to finish last. Sometimes though, nice guys and girls (or men and women, if that makes you feel better) have trouble finding their voice and standing up for themselves.

Throughout the course of my ministry, I have frequently found myself serving in the role of advocate, looking out for the rights and interests of others. It’s not something I necessarily go out looking to do . . . it just seems to find me . . . or to fit me. It is a large part of who I am and how God has shaped me, and I celebrate His goodness each time I use my shape.

Perhaps God has gifted you to be an advocate for others as well. I must warn you though, it can be a very messy role. Yet, God will never call you to do anything that He does not equip you to accomplish in His power.

While our own sin must not be negated, the reality in life is that many of the problems we suffer are due to the sin and selfishness of other people. These people can come in a variety of forms, from “friend” to family member to co-worker or boss. One word, one ugly look, or one day of the silent treatment can be just another tool to exert power over others, reducing them to little more than pawns in the game of life.

Unfortunately, most of these control freaks roam freely about our society, rarely doing anything to cross legal boundaries. Instead, they just push their own agendas and their own ways right down the throats of others, like slithering snakes in search of easy prey.

Perhaps you think it’s pointless to try and stop these people. After all, they’re probably never going to change. That may be true, but it only takes one person doing the right thing to make a tremendous difference in the lives of many others. And here’s a little tidbit of information you can take to the bank: People can only have control over you if you allow them to. Think about it. Even in a conversation, do you realize that it’s the listener, not the speaker, who controls the process? Continue Reading…