Comments on: Dealing with difficult people http://garrickdconner.com/2008/02/05/dealing-with-difficult-people/ Thu, 12 Jan 2012 20:51:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Kendall http://garrickdconner.com/2008/02/05/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-302 Wed, 24 Dec 2008 17:41:45 +0000 http://expressionsandinsights.wordpress.com/?p=100#comment-302 I have come to a spiritual awakening about myself. I have an inability to love or tolerate diffucult, controlling, abusive people. In my case the difficult people I deal with are my family and coworkers. I work for the govt. so, I have my share of difficult people. Can you say postal?

Just out of sheer emotional survival, I have to learn to love difficult people. I don’t want to put out negative energy, thinking about difficult people. Being angry at difficult people is putting too much wear and tear on me.

I have to focus on the Law of Forgiveness. I have to forgive and love so I can be forgiven and loved. If I am putting out resentment and unloving feelings, that’s going to block the love I want from coming to me.

]]> By: Rukiya http://garrickdconner.com/2008/02/05/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-300 Tue, 19 Aug 2008 14:32:18 +0000 http://expressionsandinsights.wordpress.com/?p=100#comment-300 When you meet people like this, they are the ultimate test/opportunity for you to learn to love God and yourself. You must work through the emotional, mental and spiritual uneasiness that results from the many ways and techniques they use to control you. Either live free or become a puppet.

Any relationship you have with God…..trust me, will become stronger and deeper.

]]> By: Ellen http://garrickdconner.com/2008/02/05/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-45 Tue, 18 Mar 2008 22:01:01 +0000 http://expressionsandinsights.wordpress.com/?p=100#comment-45 Lynnette:
He is not a good person. He has a personality disorder of some kind and you need to get him and anyone like him out of your personal life ASAP. There a millions of people on the planet…pick and choose and don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do that. You can’t afford not to be picky…save yourself only for the best and then give you best. Butr only give your best to the best…you are wasting it on the worst. This person you are describing will only give you a miserable life to match his own.

]]> By: Ellen http://garrickdconner.com/2008/02/05/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-44 Tue, 18 Mar 2008 21:56:49 +0000 http://expressionsandinsights.wordpress.com/?p=100#comment-44 As for me, I no longer have a single controlling person in my personal life, except for the occassional one I run into and get rid of quickly. I am very picky who is in my own personal circle, with only supportive, usually loving people. However, often one must deal with these morons at work or in a business relationship. I’d like to know how people have done that succesfully. Here’s a few examples: a co-worker who controls by feigning friendship only to get others to reveal personal things that he later uses to humiliate them by adding to or even using outright lies, a boss who gets her kicks (she is patheticaly unhappy in her lonely personal life) by manipulating, controlling and kicking around her subordinates…to mention just a few.
I personally have tried confronting them in front of others where they can’t dismiss and lie their way out so easy. Then they will back off, but later it surfaces again and again and then again….how does one strike enough fear in these idiots to keep them from coming back with more of their crap

]]> By: Lynnette http://garrickdconner.com/2008/02/05/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-35 Fri, 22 Feb 2008 09:09:41 +0000 http://expressionsandinsights.wordpress.com/?p=100#comment-35 I could not have come across this article at a better time than this. There is a man that I love very much and he creates barriers through blaming people for not expressing their true feelings for him or mistreating him. When in actuality he’s the one that does the mistreating and withholding of feelings. I’ve kept my distance from him to avoid drowning in his negativity, yet I’ve expressed that I love him, miss him and care about him. When we first met I asked him just out of the blue what he fears in life and his response was that he doesn’t fear anything. He expressed that he’s been through too much to fear anything. How can one not fear anything; Not spiders; or fear of heights; or snakes or something be it big or small. I often times feel sorry for him and feel that this is someone that God has placed on my path for a reason. I have tried to express love without trying to get to close, but just letting him know that i’m here. Don’t quite know what else to do other than pray to try to break the shell. One minute he can be the most compassionate and loving individual, which is often times towards strangers or close relatives, but then he can be very cold and uncaring if you attempt to get to close. He can go from being soft and gentle to downright mean and distant. It’s almost as though he expects one to prove their love and I don’t feel that’s something I should ever have to or can prove to anyone. Either you recognize and receive it or you don’t.
~thank you for this opportunity to share;-)

]]> By: nancy http://garrickdconner.com/2008/02/05/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-32 Tue, 05 Feb 2008 16:10:07 +0000 http://expressionsandinsights.wordpress.com/?p=100#comment-32 Oh man! I was going to blog about difficult people and now you’ve stolen my idea! Bushels of razzberries your way. Or is it that all great minds think alike? : )

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