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PeanutsI’ve always enjoyed the Peanuts comics strip. Charlie Brown is one of my favorite characters, because even when plagued by one failure after another, he keeps on trying. . . picking himself up. . . working the program.

I truly hope that 2008 is proving to be a banner year for you. Today marks the last day of the first quarter of the year, which seems a perfect time to evaluate progress on those goals (or resolutions) you may have set.

One of my goals was to get to bed a little earlier. I’m doing a bit better with that, although as I write this post at 1:15 in the morning, I imagine this goal could still use some work!

I’ve come to realize that progress doesn’t happen by itself. When we’re serious about reaching goals, we have to recognize that time, energy, sacrifice, and commitment are all required in order to achieve success.

Maybe like many people, your top goal was losing weight and getting in better physical shape. If so, how are you doing? There’s time involved in menu planning, energy involved in smart shopping, and sacrifice involved in saying no to some of your not-so-healthy food choices — as well as spending time exercising.

Maybe you decided to make this the year to get in shape financially. In order to achieve this goal, there must be a willingness to examine how your finances got out-of-whack in the first place — and a commitment to making choices that will get you to the place you want to be.

Maybe you had a goal to make new friends. For many people, this one can be as hard or harder than the ones I just mentioned. Making friends can be very difficult, especially if you find yourself in a new place. Taking that first step can be scary, but it is absolutely essential in order for progress to be attained.

Maybe none of these examples have touched on your specific goals. If not, then that’s okay. The principles mentioned can be easily applied to most any goal. Make sure that your goals are SMART: Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic, and Time-sensitive.

Be willing to set goals that are appropriate for you in your stage of life. Make sure there is some way to gauge progress. Be diligent to break your goals into baby steps or sub-goals. And always set a date to evaluate your progress and renegotiate the goals based on that progress.

The good thing is that even if you’re not making the progress you’d like, you can choose to start fresh today. You don’t have to wait around for next week, next month, or next year. You can start again right now — with a new attitude, a new commitment, and a new sense of hope.

Good things can happen when we make good choices — one step at a time. Never underestimate the power of choice.

Also, if you want a sure-fire way to increase the odds of progress toward your goals, find a buddy to help hold you accountable. It’s amazing how much difference this one choice can make. So, if you’re really serious about achieving those goals, this is one step that I can recommend without reservation.

There’s an old Indian proverb that says, “You might hit a stump if you’re shooting for a star, but you’ll never hit a star if you’re shooting for a stump.” Know your target, and give it your best shot.

And never ever ever give up!

Looking back on loss

March 24, 2008 — 1 Comment

looking backToday is a day to reflect on one of the most significant losses in my life. It is the 20th anniversary of the death of my favorite uncle.

I was only in 9th grade when Uncle Bubba was diagnosed with a very aggressive form of brain cancer. Although my time with him was much briefer than I would have chosen, the lessons I learned from him linger to this day.

Uncle Bubba was a quiet, unassuming man with a passion for God. He worked for many years at a NAPA parts store, which was just one of the reasons he seemed to know everybody. An active servant in his church, he always had a smile and warm-hearted word to offer. In fact, I don’t remember ever seeing him in a bad mood.

During his short 42 years of life, he modeled the importance of family responsibility and contentment. I remember the many times he would call the house to talk with my dad, usually several nights each week. They each loved listening to the police scanners and keeping up with the goin’s-on in the area.

I remember the trip we made to Memphis for Libertyland and the time our two families made an overnight get-away to Vicksburg to step back to the time of the Civil War.

summer cook-outPerhaps my fondest memories were those that involved cooking out. Uncle Bubba made the best hamburgers. To this day, every time I grill, I think of him and wonder if my burgers even come close. (I have a feeling they don’t, but I know that he’d tell me they’re terrific.) Of course, he’d have to have a bag of plain Lay’s potato chips to eat with them. Those were definitely his favorite.

Twenty years have come and gone, and yet even with the passing of time, the loss still rears its head in ways that sometimes catch me off-guard. As I spend some time reflecting on the blessings of a life well-lived, I pray that God would give me many opportunities to be a blessing to others as well.

Grief is a funny animal. It seems you never really get over a loss. In fact, that really shouldn’t be the goal. The major task of grief is to get through the loss, reorganizing life effectively and building a relationship with the memories that remain. For me, that has helped ease the pain of a loss that left me with unanswered questions, burning anger, and profound sadness. Tears still stream when I think about how hard I wept when I found out my prayers hadn’t been answered in the way I had hoped.

Twenty years. . . . seems impossible that I’ve had several years’ more life without him than with him. Yet the power of his influence is unmistakable. That provides more evidence of the importance of a life well-lived.

May you focus today on the things that matter most in life. Hug your family. . . call your friends. . . celebrate little joys. Today is a gift to be opened with anticipation and gratitude.

Make today count.