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A possible book topic

March 22, 2008 — 1 Comment

blueberry pancakesI’ve been saying for a long time now that I’d like to write a book one day — whenever I make the time. When I mentioned this to my son several weeks ago — in passing — he became very excited about the prospect of it. But I continue to struggle with identifying just the right topic. So, I just set that aside for a while.

Well, this week, with the incredible spring weather, I’ve had the opportunity to get outside with the kids and throw the football, play on the swings, and run around and act goofy (which isn’t too much of a stretch anyway). For a pretty non-athletic person, I still manage to throw a football quite well — much to the surprise of my boy. He’s genuinely impressed. For just a few minutes, I almost had him believing I had played quarterback in high school!

Yesterday was one of those crazy days in the life of a ministry family — when things just don’t turn out like you had planned. We had decided to make breakfast for dinner (one of our favorites), but when my wife’s children’s ministry project became an all-night ordeal, I realized that she wouldn’t be around to cook. So, being the resourceful dad that I am, I asked the kids if they would like a sandwich or something from a fast-food place. Jackson quickly protested, carefully citing the seriousness of our previous breakfast-for-dinner pact (or so it must have seemed in his mind). I explained to him that I could cook breakfast but that we’d have to do without the pancakes.

However, seeing his disappointment at the prospect of toast, I loaded up the kids and set out on a shopping adventure to pick up milk for the pancakes. Mind you, my wife was at the church in my car — which had my wallet in it. So, my son’s allowance was the only option to actually pay for anything. He was fortunately happy to oblige. While we were at the store, I decided to pick up some fresh blueberries for the pancakes. I mean, after all, if I’m going to cook, I’m going to do it up right!

Once back home, it seemed I had more help in the kitchen than I really needed — but both kids contributed in their own way. And within a half hour, we sat down to what turned out to be a very delicious breakfast for dinner.

My son’s reaction? “Dad, I think we’ve found a topic for your book. You need to write a cookbook because your blueberry pancakes are awesome!” And healthy whole wheat at that, I might add. I can just see it now: Boiling Water, Macaroni and Cheese, Hamburgers, Blueberry Pancakes . . . . I just might have to bring in some editors to help me categorize all my specialties.

Then in the best comment of the evening, Jackson said, “Dad, maybe you should just write a book called Things I’m Really Good At That No One Knew About.” He said that just this week he discovered two things: football and blueberry pancakes.

I’m still pondering his suggestion and trying to solve two obvious issues: (1) how to stretch out those two things into a book-length publication, and (2) how to actually write on that topic without sounding like the most arrogant person on the planet.

For now, I’ll again table the book idea and simply enjoy every moment with my amazing family. It just doesn’t get any better than this.

New York Governor’s MansionIt’s happened again. Another powerful and admittedly prideful politician has been outed for serious sexual indiscretions — among other things. And it’s happened again: people can’t seem to get enough of the story.

Our voyeuristic culture seems to be obsessed with news that is sensual, titillating, and scandalous. However, the thing about the whole Eliot Spitzer situation that most troubles me is not the story itself — or the seeming obsession with it. As a counselor and minister, I seldom find myself shocked by sin. The thing that troubles me most is the attitude that even many Christian people have about it all.

I don’t claim to be an expert on the Spitzer family. I don’t know their religious background or lack thereof. I didn’t even know their party affiliation until today. However, I do know that whether by disclosure or discovery, this kind of sin hurts not only the individual but also the entire family.

I cringed on Monday when the story broke, as I watched various people interviewed and expressing glee at the Governor’s plight. Does sin have consequences? Absolutely. But I think Christians should rise above reveling in the sin, sorrow, and sadness of others.

What would Christ do? He would, of course, confront the sin with truth. But I think He would also demonstrate a great deal of compassion as well. In the present situation, we have a wife who is being judged for standing by her husband in several press appearances — obviously distressed and hurt. We also have three daughters — whose lives have been torn apart — now thrust into the media spotlight. This is not a made-for-TV movie; these are real people with real feelings.

Compassion — not condemnation — is the appropriate Christian response. There is none among us without sin. Sure, most of us have never had our sins exposed in such a public way . . . but Christ died for our sins as well.

I don’t know much about this family. I do know that he has a problem — and the family has a problem. That has probably been the case for quite some time. However, now the whole world knows about their problems, and that is a terrible pain to bear.

The reality is this: for every one politician whose imperfections are exposed to light, there are thousands upon thousands of other people dealing with the same kinds of issues. I urge you to pray for these people. Practice compassion . . . even when deep down you think the person may deserve exactly what he or she is getting.

After all, doing what is right doesn’t always come naturally.