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“Fear not!”

September 27, 2010 — Leave a comment

Two simple words — of which some variation appears some 366 times in Scripture. That’s one for every day of the year — plus leap year! 125 of them appear in the gospels, imperatives of Christ Himself.

As a child I was afraid of the usual things: the dark . . . the shadows in the night . . . the monsters under the bed. It seems kind of silly now, but those were really things that could make my hair stand on end. As an adult, I’ve found that fear never really goes away; rather, we tend to transfer it to other situations. I’m still afraid of heights to some extent. And I hate roller coasters. I don’t particularly like to fly either, although the latter two examples are probably more rooted in the loss of control experienced.

However, some of you know that in recent years I have learned what it is to suffer the effects of anxiety in my own life. For many years I counseled individuals with regard to anxiety and phobias, but it was not until I experienced it for myself that I could truly empathize. The heart palpitations. The profuse sweating. The overwhelming sense of impending doom. Not fun at all!

Truly there are so many things in today’s world that give way to some legitimate anxiety. Our 24-hour news stream sounds a lot like Matthew 24, does it not? Wars and rumors of wars. Earthquakes. Famines. And on and on and on.

During the recent AACC conference, Dr. Ken Nichols of ALIVE Ministries presented a talk on the subject of fear. He pointed out that the message we receive from the media is clear: “Be afraid. Be very afraid!” And even if you think the sky isn’t falling, realize that it will. Just keep watching, it will!

In my own life I find that my anxiety level is directly related to the amount of news and information I allow to come into my mind. The reality is that all of us would do well to limit our intake of negativity — and let’s face it: that means shutting off a good chunk of the news. The late ABC newsman Peter Jennings was once asked why the news coverage seemed so overwhelmingly tipped in favor of bad news. In his suave Canadian accent, he quickly offered what I found to be a most candid and thought-provoking reply: “We must report on the planes that crash — not the ones that land safely.”

Nichols in his talk on Friday pointed out several facts about fear that I believe bear repeating in this space: Continue Reading…

Drinking from a fire hydrant

September 23, 2010 — 3 Comments

I’m blogging tonight from the World Conference of the American Association of Christian Counselors in Branson, Missouri. Here in a beautiful part of the midwest, some 1700+ pastors and counselors from places near and far have gathered to learn, network, and seek ways to better minister to people.

I have attended AACC events in the past from the vantage point of a clinical therapist. However, since I’m not doing private practice at this point in my life, this year I’m focusing on sessions related to leadership development, discipleship, and ministry.

This afternoon I spent several hours with Dr. Eric Scalise as he shared some particularly insightful information regarding transformational leadership. It’s kind of funny . . . I’m dealing with that on my own with leadership in my church. I think God is really wanting me to pay attention, so I think I will. God is speaking to me in many ways about my own life and ministry. One of the most significant things I’m hearing from Him is the importance of working to intentionally see people the way He sees them. Scalise helped me remember the fact that I’m an ambassador for Christ, which is an awesome responsibility. I’m sure you’ll be hearing more about that in future posts. I need to take some time to process it all.

Tonight was our first plenary session with Dr. Larry Crabb. He is an amazing man of God and a gifted communicator. He always challenges me to be more proactive about my own personal and spiritual growth. And yes, I need to do just that.

Michael O’Brien is leading worship at this year’s conference, and it’s an awesome thing indeed to raise voices of praise with that many men and women of God. I think of it as a preview of what heaven is going to be like.

What do I expect to gain from my time here? Well, here are a few of the things that I’m pondering in my mind:

  • How does God want to use me to better connect with people who need to know Him? I can’t afford to become self-satisfied.
  • What are my ‘next steps’ in ministry? Life transformation is a lifelong process.
  • What God-sized tasks does He want me to tackle? It’s all about Him, remember?

Tomorrow I get to bask in the teaching of Gary SmalleyJennifer Cisney, H. Norman Wright (one of my faves), Kenneth Nichols, and Michael Lyles. It will be like drinking from a fire hydrant, but I’m grateful for the opportunity.

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