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EeyoreI’ve shared insights on disappointment with you in the past. To be sure, there are so many things that can lead us to feel disappointed, frustrated, and generally dissatisfied in life.

God is teaching me on a regular basis just how true the words of Scripture are. We have much work to do in order to think and act like Him. When faced with times of difficulty and frustration, the human response is to want to give up, or give in, or act as though nothing good is ever going to happen and no one is ever going to care. I think about the wonderfully dismal Disney character, Eeyore. “Oh, bother.”

Sometimes people are faced with challenging illnesses that play havoc not only with their bodies but also with their emotions. Cancer is certainly one of those illnesses, and my family has seen its impact in many ways through the years.

Today though I want to talk to you about a different kind of cancer — the cancer of discontentment.

Just as physical cancer destroys healthy human tissue, the cancer of discontentment eats away at the human spirit. Rather than expressing gratitude to God for the blessings of our lives, the cancer of discontentment leaves us focused only on those things we don’t have. I don’t know what that is for you. A better job? A different house? A new city to live in? A more loving marriage? A victory over some sort of addiction? The options really are endless.

In the same way that physical cancer can render the body unable to take in food and drink, the cancer of discontentment can render a person unable to take delight in those things that are designed to bring joy into our lives: the beauty of a gleaming sunrise; a call from a friend, just to say hello; a gentle word from a family member — perhaps when a harsh word may have been easier.

The costs of cancer are high. Anyone who has ever experienced this kind of disease can attest to that. However, I believe the costs of discontentment are ever higher.

Discontentment can rob a person of his freedom and quality of life. It can isolate him from friends and family members who choose simply to be with others who can actually give and receive love. For a Christian, discontentment can damage effectiveness in ministry. After all, no one enjoys a sourpuss — especially one who claims to have “new life” in Christ.

Christmas presentA little boy, anxious for Christmas, asked his mother time and time again, “Can I open just one present, please?” Every day, his mother told him no. Finally, in a moment of weakness, the exasperated mother said, “OK, son, but just one.” The little boy knew exactly which present he wanted to open. It was wrapped in beautiful, bright red paper and had a shiny, gold bow on top. As he tore open the package in three seconds’ time, the little boy began to cry when he saw that underneath the green tissue paper. . . was a package of white socks. He turned the box upside-down, hoping something else was hidden inside, but nothing could be found. Continue Reading…

The following is the third installment of a three-part series.

sad personDisappointment is one of those things that can truly discourage you, especially if it visits too often. We know that good things can even come out of bad things in life. Sometimes you just have to look a little harder for that cloud’s silver lining.

However, there are times when the disappointments of life can just become too much for a person to deal with. Whether it’s due to relationships problems or something else, disappointment can take a toll on human psyche.

When this happens, disappointment can snowball into depression — with practically no warning at all. Then there’s a much bigger problem.

Don’t let disappointment defeat you! Here are a few helpful tips to help:

  • Stay connected to the people you love. Don’t isolate! Be willing to share your feelings with someone you can trust. If you don’t have anyone like that, do your best to find someone.
     
  • Write out your feelings. Journalling is a valuable therapeutic tool. (Even in the age of technology, don’t feel that you have to post it online for everyone to see. This is for you — not other people.)
     
  • Be aware of any changes in sleep or appetite. These can be warning signs of depression.
     
  • Focus on the things that bring you joy and peace. There are so many things that bog us down. We can’t afford to always focus on those. Otherwise, we’d all be gloomy. Think on the many blessings you have to be thankful for.
     
  • Do your best to have realistic expectations. I often joke that I’d rather expect little and be pleasantly surprised than expect a lot and be disappointed. But there really is some truth in that. You know the people and situations in your life. The more realistic you can be about both, the better prepared you’ll be to cope with whatever comes your way.

Even though disappointment is an inevitable part of life, it does not have to be the part with which we most closely identify. If you find yourself struggling to deal effectively with your disappointments in life, reach out to a trusted minister, counselor, or friend.

Life is much too short. Find a reason to enjoy it. . . the sooner, the better.