When disappointment defeats

December 20, 2007 — Leave a comment

The following is the third installment of a three-part series.

sad personDisappointment is one of those things that can truly discourage you, especially if it visits too often. We know that good things can even come out of bad things in life. Sometimes you just have to look a little harder for that cloud’s silver lining.

However, there are times when the disappointments of life can just become too much for a person to deal with. Whether it’s due to relationships problems or something else, disappointment can take a toll on human psyche.

When this happens, disappointment can snowball into depression — with practically no warning at all. Then there’s a much bigger problem.

Don’t let disappointment defeat you! Here are a few helpful tips to help:

  • Stay connected to the people you love. Don’t isolate! Be willing to share your feelings with someone you can trust. If you don’t have anyone like that, do your best to find someone.
     
  • Write out your feelings. Journalling is a valuable therapeutic tool. (Even in the age of technology, don’t feel that you have to post it online for everyone to see. This is for you — not other people.)
     
  • Be aware of any changes in sleep or appetite. These can be warning signs of depression.
     
  • Focus on the things that bring you joy and peace. There are so many things that bog us down. We can’t afford to always focus on those. Otherwise, we’d all be gloomy. Think on the many blessings you have to be thankful for.
     
  • Do your best to have realistic expectations. I often joke that I’d rather expect little and be pleasantly surprised than expect a lot and be disappointed. But there really is some truth in that. You know the people and situations in your life. The more realistic you can be about both, the better prepared you’ll be to cope with whatever comes your way.

Even though disappointment is an inevitable part of life, it does not have to be the part with which we most closely identify. If you find yourself struggling to deal effectively with your disappointments in life, reach out to a trusted minister, counselor, or friend.

Life is much too short. Find a reason to enjoy it. . . the sooner, the better.

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