The Day I Said, ‘I Do’

March 15, 2012 — 5 Comments

Fifteen years ago today I watched my best friend walk down a church aisle. She stood beside me, held my hand, and we repeated our vows in front of God and many friends and family members.

A Christian marriage is one of God’s greatest gifts. Things haven’t always been easy; in fact, we’ve had some real rough patches along the way. As those of you who are married can attest, it’s one thing to love someone — and another thing entirely to share space with them day after day.

Life has a funny way of throwing curve balls when you least expect them. Challenges arise. Difficulties come. Anxiety overtakes. Those are the times that test the bonds of marriage. Those are the times during which a cord of three strands is absolutely essential.

As I look back on the last fifteen years, a number of things stand out very clearly. Like all other married couples, we’ve experienced the highs and lows that come with the natural markings of life. It’s during the tough times that we’ve had to remember that marriage cannot be based on feelings, which ebb and flow and come and go.

Marriage must be rooted in love. And love is a choice . . . a decision . . . a commitment . . . a covenant before the God of the universe. What comes after this life is yet to be seen. For the present life, however, I have a quiet confidence that God in His grace joined our hearts and lives together and will continue to paint the tapestry of our marriage with a kaleidoscope of watercolors whose impressive array of patterns only He can see. We often get focused on one particular shade of color, but on occasion from a distant place, God allows us to catch a glimpse of the bigger picture.

Through marriage I’ve learned to trust more deeply, share more completely, and love more fully than I ever thought possible. And while our daily routine is filled with all the mundane things of any family — laundry, trash, menu planning, and such — it’s the daily routine that provides the fertile ground from which a deeper, richer, more fulfilling relationship can emerge.

On this day fifteen years ago, two very in-love individuals were joined together in holy matrimony. When we said ‘I do’ and exchanged rings and kisses, we set out on a wild adventure called marriage. Through the laughter and tears, heartaches and fears, one thing has kept us together: our commitment to love each other faithfully as long as we both shall live.

We did. We have. We will.

By His grace.

Michelle, you are one of God’s greatest gifts . . . and I can never thank Him enough.

I can honestly say that I love you today far more than I did back then. Thank you for loving me too.

Happy Anniversary.

5 responses to The Day I Said, ‘I Do’

  1. 
    Marilyn Riordan March 15, 2012 at 10:49 am

    So much enjoyed your creative and heartfelt tribute to your sweet wife, Christian marriage, and the Lord. I think it was one of your best writings (and that is saying a lot). Having been married for 33 1/2 years to a dear Christian man and then widowed for 4 1/2 years I can completely agree with you that love and commitment to the Lord and each other is KEY!

  2. 

    Loved the brief stroll down your marriage years!!! We pray that the LORD will grant you many more such years…and, you will find that they just keep getting better and better.

    GOD BLESS!!

    Fay & John Peek

  3. 
    stephanie mcmillian March 16, 2012 at 9:51 am

    i had to share with my friends..should a true testimant of a God filled marriage. wishes for many long years together..

  4. 

    Congratulations Garrick on your anniversary. Thank you for painting a beautiful picture of what marriage looks like even in the mundane tasks of daily life.

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